A bride was surprised when her brother seemingly used her wedding as an opportunity to settle a grudge.
Taking to Reddit‘s popular “Wedding Shaming” forum, the woman explained that her brother had made a request about the guest list, which was seemingly to get even with one of their mutual friends.
However, she thought that it would be “really rude and personal” to follow through with his request.
Others agreed, with one person even saying that he needed to sit at the kids’ table because he was being so immature.
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In her post, the bride explained that her brother was upset with “one of [her] closest childhood friends” who invited them to their wedding about five years ago.
Since she was “somewhat close” with the bride’s brother, he was also invited. However, he almost didn’t attend because he wasn’t able to bring his 4-year-old twins. The wedding was “without kids with some exceptions.”
“I managed to convince him to go to her wedding, and everything turned out fine,” she wrote.
However, he seemingly sees his sister’s wedding as a chance to make their friend feel how he did.
“Now as I’m getting married at the end of this year, my brother is telling me not to invite her 2yo kid,” she wrote, adding, “My wedding won’t be child-free, and I feel like it’d be really rude and personal to not to invite them.”
The bride was feeling “really confused about what to do” since she said in her culture “we invite people based on who invited us to their wedding.” As a result, her parents aren’t opposed to the idea, but she still thought it’s “really disrespectful.”
Others agreed, with many of them telling the bride to ignore her brother’s recommendation.
“Your wedding isn’t child free, singling out one child to not invite because your brother is throwing a tantrum would ne peak a–hole,” someone wrote, adding that the friend “has done nothing wrong.”
They added, “Frankly it’s incredibly immature that years later he’s STILL mad about it.”
“Why does your brother’s petty opinion matter?” one Redditor asked, writing, “It’s your wedding with your future spouse, brother should have absolutely no say.”
Warning the bride not to be “pulled into [her brother’s] grudge tantrum,” another user noted that he easily could have skipped the friend’s wedding and was acting like a child at this point.
“It was your friend‘s wedding and she was more than allowed to have it be child free. Your wedding is not, invite her and her children. Your brother can stay mad and childish,” they advised.
“I’ll never understand people actually getting offended about their kids not being invited. Oh no someone is offering me the opportunity to have an adult night out! How horrible!” someone joked, noting that a childfree guest list isn’t “some insult,” but actually a fair request.
Another Redditor said what many of them seemed to be thinking: “I’d invite the kids and put your brother on the kids table for thinking his opinion matters.”
