Danny Moder<\/strong>, was nowhere to be seen.<\/p>\nThat\u2019s been a common theme over the past year. In fact, the couple haven\u2019t been photographed together in public since December 2022. Now, five months after marking their 21st wedding anniversary, Julia and Danny are at a crisis point in their marriage, multiple insiders exclusively tell Life & Style<\/em>. \u201cThey seem to be living separate lives,\u201d says one source, who believes the pair could be headed for a $250 million divorce. \u201cFriends fear that after years of ups and downs, this is finally the end. It feels like they just gave up.\u201d<\/p>\nHOW THEY GOT HERE<\/h2>\n
Problems are nothing new. Back in 2018, Life & Style<\/em> revealed the Oscar winner, 56, and the cinematographer, 54 \u2014 who may or may not have signed a prenup \u2014 were fighting over everything from her controlling ways to their different approaches to parenting to Danny always feeling like he\u2019s in Julia\u2019s shadow. Though Julia has at points stepped back from acting to focus on her family, \u201cDanny was always of the belief that Julia [still] put her career ahead of his and he resented it,\u201d an insider tells Life & Style<\/em>. In 2020, Julia pushed to try something new. After years of raising their three children in Malibu, she bought a century-old house in San Francisco. \u201cShe overruled Danny\u2019s objections and ran with it. She was passionate about renovating and moving the family there so the kids could go to school with the children of tech tycoons, not entitled Hollywood kids,\u201d explains the insider. \u201cDanny resisted the move. His career is in LA, plus he wanted to be in Southern California to stay closer to his family. He did move, though, but it was to appease Julia, who pretty much put her foot down on the matter.\u201d<\/p>\nIt was a disaster, the insider tells Life & Style<\/em>. \u201cDanny was never happy about living in San Francisco. He felt it was hurting his career being so far from the action. He missed his surfing buddies. He didn\u2019t like the vibe or the weather. It put strain on their marriage and wasn\u2019t getting better, no matter how nice Julia made their home,\u201d shares the source, who says Danny was ready to head back to Malibu \u201cwhether Julia came with him or not.\u201d<\/p>\nJulia, adds the insider, \u201cknew she was beat. He gave San Francisco a shot, she had to give him that. Her dream didn\u2019t work out the way she intended.\u201d They were facing a reckoning. \u201cThey had to take a good, long look at their marriage and decide what they were going to do,\u201d the insider reveals to Life & Style<\/em>. \u201cIn the end, they moved back to LA together.\u201d
In October, they sold the San Francisco house. But issues remained. This year, son Henry turned 16, and twins Hazel and Phin- naeus rang in their 19th birthday. \u201cThe kids are older and more independent,\u201d says the source, \u201cand Julia and Danny are having to figure out this new phase of their relationship.\u201d<\/p>\n