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Xavier Bonner<\/strong><\/a> spoke out after what will surely go down as one of the most brutal exits<\/a> in the history of The Bachelorette<\/em><\/a>.<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s taken me a while to write this but here goes,\u201d Xavier, 27, began in a lengthy Instagram<\/a> post shared on Friday, August 11. \u201cFor the first time in my life, I let go of the facts and figures to instead focus on letting my feelings lead the way. The process wasn\u2019t easy but it\u2019s been immensely eye-opening.\u201d<\/p>\n He went on to give a shout-out to Bachelorette Charity Lawson<\/strong><\/a>, who eliminated him<\/a> during the Monday, August 7, episode of the ABC series after he shared his controversial views on fidelity in their romance. \u201cThank you for always creating space for me to open up and step outside of my comfort zone as well as for being willing to have tough, raw conversations that pushed me to think more deeply,\u201d he wrote. \u201cYou deserve everything and more and I wish you the best in finding your forever person.\u201d<\/p>\n Xavier acknowledged that it\u2019s \u201cnever easy to share the worst parts of your past with someone you love\u201d but said the experience has been \u201cnecessary\u201d for his personal growth.<\/p>\n \u201cThis journey was all about vulnerability and although I may not have always been as clear or eloquent in expressing myself as I would\u2019ve liked to be, I\u2019m forever grateful for this experience,\u201d he continued. \u201cI know there\u2019s lots more learning, more healing, and more work to do and I\u2019m looking forward to becoming the best version of myself.\u201d<\/p>\n Xavier began the season as kind of a sleeper contestant, but Charity, 27, kept giving him roses until he was one of the final four men remaining<\/a>. Charity repeatedly said Xavier reminded her of an ex, and during fantasy suites, she finally found out why.<\/p>\n During their date, Xavier confessed that he had been unfaithful to an ex-girlfriend \u2014 five times in the span of one week. Charity seemed willing to give him the benefit of the doubt until he began expounding on how he wouldn\u2019t cheat in a marriage but couldn\u2019t be certain he\u2019d stay faithful without that legal binding.<\/p>\n Xavier then said he felt like he needed to see \u201cmore\u201d from Charity and didn\u2019t think he would feel sure of her unless they spent the night together. At that point, Charity put her foot down.<\/p>\n \u201cUs in a bedroom is not going to determine whether you can see longevity in a relationship. No, f\u2013k this. I\u2019m so mad,\u201d she said before delivering one of the most iconic lines in the annals of Bachelor Nation<\/a>. \u201cI\u2019m not here to fix anyone. I\u2019m not here to build a man. This isn\u2019t Build-A-Man Workshop.\u201d<\/p>\n After the episode aired, Charity said she was \u201cextremely proud\u201d of herself for how she handled the conversation, even as she was frustrated to realize Xavier wasn\u2019t The One for her.<\/p>\n \u201cIt was very important that in that moment I maintained and displayed emotional regulation and effective communication,\u201d she told Entertainment Weekly<\/em><\/a> on Tuesday, August 8. \u201cI am disappointed in the conversation, but am glad he didn\u2019t keep it from me until any later.\u201d<\/p>\n