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Benny Blanco has revealed he drew up a checklist with his therapist describing his \u201cideal partner\u201d before finding love with Selena Gomez \u2013 with being \u2018age-appropriate\u2019 taking the number one spot<\/p>\n
Music producer Benny, 38, discussed the unusual route that eventually led him to singer Selena, 34, during an appearance on The Mel Robbins Podcast on Thursday (03.09.26.) <\/p>\n
The Grammy-nominated producer and songwriter married Selena in California in September 2025 after the pair went public with their romance in December 2023 and announced their engagement a year later.<\/p>\n
Speaking to Mel, Benny said he had previously told his therapist that he wanted to understand why he had struggled to find a lasting relationship.<\/p>\n
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He added: \u201cI said, \u2018I really wanna find the right partner, and I\u2019m doing something wrong. I can\u2019t find the person that I\u2019m gonna spend the rest of my life with, and I want to do that\u2019.\u201d<\/p>\n
\nBenny also said: \u201cAnd we came up with some guidelines and a list.\u201d<\/p>\n
\nThe music producer said his therapist instructed him to write down the qualities he genuinely wanted in a potential partner.<\/p>\n
\nHe went on: \u201cThe first thing on my list was age-appropriate.\u201d<\/p>\n
\nBenny added \u201cyou have to be very honest with yourself\u201d when deciding what matters in a relationship.<\/p>\n
\nKindness was the next requirement.<\/p>\n
\nHe said: \u201cThen the second thing on my list was, someone who\u2019s nice. Nice, caring, compassionate, like someone who\u2019s a nice person.\u201d<\/p>\n
\nBenny added his third requirement was finding someone who generally approached life positively and took action when struggling.<\/p>\n
\nHe said: \u201cAnd if they were sad, they were doing something about it. Like they were going to therapy, they were taking medicine if they need to, they were doing yoga. They were actively trying to (change things.)\u201d<\/p>\n
\nHe joked his checklist did not include highly specific physical requirements such as want \u201ctheir like left toe longer than their right\u201d.<\/p>\n
\nInstead, Benny said: \u201cThese were like broad things, and if it didn\u2019t meet those like first five or six things, (I) couldn\u2019t even pursue.\u201d<\/p>\n
\nBenny and Selena had known each other for years before becoming a couple, with their relationship developing after a series of professional collaborations.<\/p>\n
\nThe producer said: \u201cWe first met about 15 years ago. We worked together five or six years after that, and then again five or six years after that, and had a casual friendship during the time. Then we started dating a few years after that. Now she\u2019s my wife.\u201d<\/p>\n
\nHe added: \u201cWe always talk about how it never would\u2019ve worked out if it were at a different time or place in our lives, because neither one of us would\u2019ve likely been ready.\u201d<\/p>\n
\nThe pair first met in 2008 and subsequently worked together on music, with Benny receiving production credits on Selena\u2019s releases including Same Old Love, Kill Em with Kindness and I Can\u2019t Get Enough.<\/p>\n
\nThey later collaborated on the 2025 album I Said I Love You First, which chronicled their relationship and included the singles Scared of Loving You, Call Me When You Break Up and Bluest Flame.<\/p>\n
\nSelena publicly confirmed their romance in December 2023, responding to posts about the relationship on Instagram and writing of Benny: \u201cHe is my absolute everything in my heart.\u201d<\/p>\n
\nShe announced their engagement on Instagram in December 2024, prompting Benny to respond: \u201cHey wait\u2026 that\u2019s my wife.\u201d<\/p>\n
\nThe couple married in Santa Barbara, California, on September 27, 2025, with both wearing Ralph Lauren for the ceremony.<\/p>\n
\nTheir relationship has been back in the spotlight this week after they travelled through Italy ahead of their first wedding anniversary.<\/p>\n
\nBenny and Selena were photographed arriving in Venice aboard the Venice Simplon-Orient-Express before taking a water taxi through the city, with the couple seen holding hands and sharing affectionate moments during the trip.<\/p>\n
\nAway from their marriage, Benny remains one of pop music\u2019s most prolific producers and songwriters, having worked with artists including Ed Sheeran, Justin Bieber, Rihanna, Katy Perry and Maroon 5. His appearance on Mel\u2019s podcast also comes as he promotes his new book.<\/p>\n
\nSelena, meanwhile, remains closely associated with her role as Mabel Mora alongside Steve Martin and Martin Short in the Emmy-winning comedy Only Murders in the Building.<\/p>\n
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