Madi Prewett Troutt<\/a><\/strong> is getting candid about \u201cthe power of communicating\u201d as she navigates her first year of marriage with Grant Troutt<\/strong>.<\/p>\n \u201cWhen we first got married, I think I expected him to just know all of my needs and desires and that was very unfair to him,\u201d the Bachelor alum, 27, told Us Weekly <\/em>exclusively\u00a0while promoting her partnership with Upward Christian Dating<\/a>. \u201cAnd so I finally had to get to a point where I was like, \u2018Hey, when I come home from a three or four-day trip, I would love to have the whole evening with just you. I want us to eat a meal together. I want us to ask intentional questions together and just enjoy an evening.\u2019 And I had to really learn to communicate that because that wasn\u2019t something he just could understand on his own. So we\u2019ve learned the importance of communication through trial and error, like, the moments where we\u2019ve done just such a bad job of it and the moments we\u2019ve crushed it. And I think just having grace for each other and patience for each other is so important.\u201d<\/p>\n Madi and Grant, also 27, wed in October 2022<\/a> after less than a year of dating, waiting until marriage<\/a> to move in together.<\/p>\n \u201cI had to learn very early on, \u2018Hey, like, don\u2019t take life so seriously.\u2019 [Grant is] not God, so he\u2019s gonna fail me and he\u2019s going to let me down and I\u2019m not gonna meet his every need all the time, and he\u2019s not gonna meet my every need all the time. And that\u2019s why my hope is not in him,\u201d she continued. \u201cAnd I think that\u2019s really, really important as a believer \u2014 to make sure that you are seeking that relationship with God. And if you\u2019re trying to find all of your hope, all of your worth, all of your value, all of your purpose, everything in a person and in a relationship with another human, it\u2019s gonna continue to let you down.\u201d<\/p>\n The former ABC star credits early morning prayer with how she approaches conflict with her spouse.<\/p>\n \u201cI wake up, I go have my time with God. I have a prayer closet and I get in my prayer closet and I pray and I just spend time reading the Bible and just, like, filling myself up and reminding myself of what\u2019s most important. And then from that place, I\u2019m able to really be the wife that God\u2019s called me to be and to really love him well and to meet his needs. And I think we\u2019ve both seen the importance of that, especially when conflict arises,\u201d she told Us<\/em>. \u201cIf I have not spent time with the Lord and if I have not reminded myself of what\u2019s most important, that\u2019s where a really, you know, not-so-pretty side of Madi can come out and I can just be really selfish and just have such unfair expectations. And so that\u2019s why it\u2019s really important for me to kind of get my heart right in the mornings and to just align myself with the Lord and kind of love from that place.\u201d<\/p>\n Madi and Grant met in late 2021 and got engaged in July 2022.<\/p>\n \u201cI actually came off [The Bachelor<\/em>] and had gotten in a relationship right after, and then that relationship ended and then I was just enjoying my singleness and then I met my husband Grant through mutual friends,\u201d she told Us<\/em>. \u201cSo I never got to the point where I found myself kind of, like, wrestling with that thought of, \u2018Should I download [an] app?\u2019 But I have friends who are at that point, so I have encouraged them. I\u2019m like, \u2018You should check it out!\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n Madi is now teaming up with Upward Christian Dating to help single Christians find The One.<\/p>\n \u201cI think one of the hardest things about dating is you\u2019re going on a date and you haven\u2019t asked all those, like, hard questions. \u2018Where\u2019s your faith? What are your values? How were you raised? What do you hope for your future?\u2019 And I think something that\u2019s cool is with Upward, you know, you\u2019re kind of already doing that front work early on,\u201d she explained. \u201cAnd so you\u2019re able to get on this app and know when you\u2019re looking at some of these people \u2014 sure there\u2019s different levels \u2014 but hopefully everyone on this app has the same beliefs and values.\u201d<\/p>\n She added: \u201cI think one thing that we can do often as Christians is just wait for God to just drop something in our lap. And I think sometimes we have to realize [that] we have to step out of the boat and we have to take a step of faith and courage. \u2026 Set yourself up for success by putting yourself in situations and environments to meet the right people.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n
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