90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days<\/em><\/a>, Christian set off on his flight to London.<\/p>\nHe was on his way to meet Cleo for the first time. But something changed a short time before his departure.<\/p>\n
More of Christian\u2019s family learned of his plans. Some asked him intrusive questions. Others reacted with outright, explicit bigotry.<\/p>\n
Christian told his friends that he\u2019s prepared to cut off transphobic relatives. But he also seems to be getting cold feet towards Cleo herself.<\/p>\n<\/noscript> (TLC)<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\nDuring Season 6, Episode 5 of 90 Day Fiance: Before The 90 Days, Christian was still back home in Minnesota. In his home state, but not in his house.<\/p>\n
He stopped by to eat with Tom and Janna, two friends of his. Christian and Tom have a long friendship and a lot in common.<\/p>\n
Christian was nursing a bit of a hangover at the time. When asked, he mentioned that Cleo does drink \u2014 but she\u2019s not a party animal like he is.<\/p>\n (TLC)<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\nTom and Janna have known about Christian\u2019s romance with Cleo for months, though not for the entire span of it.<\/p>\n
In fact, Tom says that Christian and Cleo have now outlasted most of his in-person relationships. That sounds promising.<\/p>\n
Christian told his friends over brunch that he had opened up to a few family members about his plans to meet Cleo. Those folks told other relatives, and now everyone knows. Families, right?<\/p>\n (TLC)<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\nChristian has a brother (with whom he lives) and two sisters. And he has older relatives.<\/p>\n
It sounds like it is the older generations who had a negative reaction to this relationship. The issue? That Cleo is trans.<\/p>\n
Many people who are not themselves marginalized know what it\u2019s like to face backlash from bigoted relatives over whom they date.<\/p>\n (TLC)<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\nIt\u2019s not like when a gay or bi person is dating someone of the same gender. That person is, themselves, marginalized.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s different when a white person has a Black partner. When an able-bodied person has a disabled partner. When a cisgender man like Christian dates a transgender woman like Cleo.<\/p>\n
From what Christian is saying, it doesn\u2019t sound like his family is worried about Cleo being autistic. Instead, the response has ranged from \u201cquestioning\u201d to explicit transphobia.<\/p>\n (TLC)<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\nThere is, to be clear, a \u201cwhole spectrum\u201d of how his relatives have responded. Some, Christian admitted, were \u201cantagonistic.\u201d<\/p>\n
He didn\u2019t go into a lot of examples. But some of what he heard was so directly transphobic that it doesn\u2019t bear repeating.<\/p>\n
And somewhere along the spectrum, there\u2019s been some hand-wringing about how society will treat him as a cis straight man dating a trans woman. Well, how bigots within society<\/em> will, anyway.<\/p>\n (TLC)<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\nChristian admitted to his friends that he\u2019s not inexorably tied to these people. He can break off his relationship with some relatives.<\/p>\n
Honestly? Good for him! No one needs bigots of any type in their lives.<\/p>\n
But Christian knows that his relatives aren\u2019t separate entities from each other. Saying this and doing it are different things.<\/p>\n (TLC)<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\nSpeaking to the camera, Tom and Janna admitted that they know that Christian is pretty close with his family.<\/p>\n
Cutting ties with a bigoted aunt or uncle isn\u2019t always feasible. It\u2019s a family \u2014 they\u2019re all related.<\/p>\n
So even if he wants to, cutting ties may be harder for him to do than he\u2019s currently imagining.<\/p>\n (TLC)<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\nOver in London, Cleo was moving in to a rental apartment. Why? Because she has a roommate.<\/p>\n
She and Christian wanted to get to know each other on-on-one.<\/p>\n
Cleo did bring some clothes, some other essentials. Oh, and her adorable kitties.<\/p>\n (TLC)<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\nEven though Christian was not there yet, Cleo admitted that she could feel him holding her at arm\u2019s length.<\/p>\n
Before, he was talking so much about showering her with affection. Now, it sounds like he has cold feet about stuff like PDA.<\/p>\n
It wasn\u2019t a mystery to Cleo. She knew that this was his response to transphobic relatives. He was angry with them, but he clearly internalized some of their worries about him facing social consequences for being with her.<\/p>\n (TLC)<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\nChristian was, at least, aware that some of his older relatives\u2019 transphobic \u201cconcerns\u201d had influenced him.<\/p>\n
He admitted that he was just overthinking things. Clearly.<\/p>\n
But he also planned to treat meeting Cleo in person as if they were meeting for the first time. So, apparently, he\u2019s not going to kiss her at the airport.<\/p>\n (TLC)<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\nTom drove Christian to the airport to see him off.<\/p>\n
To the camera, he admitted that Christian\u2019s newfound hesitation will probably hurt Cleo\u2019s feelings.<\/p>\n
Yeah. No one can help having bigots for relatives. But letting their words influence you? That\u2019s a mistake.<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n
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