{"id":246490,"date":"2026-06-16T00:10:09","date_gmt":"2026-06-16T00:10:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/entertainment.runfyers.com\/index.php\/2026\/06\/16\/jennifer-lopez-told-herself-to-figure-yourself-out-after-ben-affleck-divorce\/"},"modified":"2026-06-16T00:10:09","modified_gmt":"2026-06-16T00:10:09","slug":"jennifer-lopez-told-herself-to-figure-yourself-out-after-ben-affleck-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/entertainment.runfyers.com\/index.php\/2026\/06\/16\/jennifer-lopez-told-herself-to-figure-yourself-out-after-ben-affleck-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"Jennifer Lopez told herself to &#8216;figure yourself out&#8217; after Ben Affleck divorce"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p class=\"byline\">\n<p>        <time itemprop=\"datePublished\" content=\"2026-06-16\" datetime=\"1781568609\" pubdate=\"\">16 June 2026<\/time>\n    <\/p>\n<p>Jennifer Lopez told herself to &#8220;f****** figure yourself out&#8221; after her divorce from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.femalefirst.co.uk\/ben-affleck\/\" class=\"exposure-link \" data-linktrack=\"LinkTracker,articleExposure,ben-affleck\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Ben Affleck<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>                            <\/p>\n<p class=\"image-caption landscape\">Former couple Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez<\/p>\n<p>The 56-year-old singer realised she needed to work on herself and not blame others after becoming single in April 2024. Jennifer filed for divorce from the 53-year-old actor four months later, ending their two-year marriage, and it was finalised in January 2025.<\/p>\n<p>Appearing on the latest episode of actors <a href=\"https:\/\/www.femalefirst.co.uk\/jason-bateman\/\" class=\"exposure-link \" data-linktrack=\"LinkTracker,articleExposure,jason-bateman\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Jason Bateman<\/a>, 57, Will Arnett, 56, and 55-year-old Sean Hayes&#8217; SmartLess podcast, the On the Floor hitmaker &#8211; who has maintained a close friendship with Ben &#8211; admitted there have been times in her life where &#8220;my life blew up in my own face&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>She added: &#8220;It was because of the choices I made, but also because of the fact that I had things that needed to change about myself that I didn&#8217;t understand or recognise that was attracting certain things and attracting a certain type of experience into my life. <\/p>\n<p>&#8220;So, I want to give myself that credit too, but there comes a point where it&#8217;s all so puzzling and wrong where you have to sit there. <\/p>\n<p>\n&#8220;And after my last divorce, I just sat there and I was like, I cancelled my tour and I sat there and I was just like, &#8216;You need to f****** figure yourself out. What is going on with you? Forget about everybody else. There&#8217;s nobody to blame here except yourself, in a certain way.'&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>\nJennifer &#8211; who was married to actor Ojani Noa, 52, from 1997 until 1998, 56-year-old dancer Cris Judd (2001-2002), and 57-year-old singer-and-actor Marc Anthony (2004-2014) &#8211; reflected on her life now.<\/p>\n<p>\nThe Kiss of the Spider-Woman actress shared: I&#8217;m also staring down &#8211; what is my life now? The past 20 years, it&#8217;s been one thing, the past five years has been a tumult, and then the last two years has been kind of the healing process from that tumult, where I really got to know myself.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>\nJennifer said she is in a better place now compared to a couple of years ago.<\/p>\n<p>\nThe Grammy nominee continued: &#8220;The person I am today is so different than the person I was even two years ago, it&#8217;s crazy. And now I can really look at my life, appreciate it for what it is and what I&#8217;ve created for myself and be really happy.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>\nEarlier this month, Jennifer shut down the idea of meeting her next man on social media.<\/p>\n<p>\nDuring the June 8 episode of Bravo&#8217;s Watch What Happens Live With Andy Cohen, the 58-year-old host asked: &#8220;Do you check your DMs, Jennifer?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>\nShe replied: &#8220;No.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>\nAndy wondered how she would respond if a &#8220;hot Spanish footballer&#8221; slid into her private messages.<\/p>\n<p>\nBut the Anaconda alum responded: &#8220;I think they would be able to find me, no? If you really wanted to find me, you could find me.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>\nJennifer added: &#8220;You\u2019re not going to find me through Instagram or sliding into my DMs. You have to make more of an effort than that.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\nThe entertainer and actor Brett Goldstein, 45, star in Netflix&#8217;s rom-com, Office Romance, in which airline CEO Jackie Cruz (Jennifer) and Daniel Blanchflower (Brett), her firm&#8217;s lawyer, have a secret relationship.<\/p>\n<p>\nIt has been rumoured that the pair have struck up a romance off-screen, but she and Brett recently shut down the speculation.<\/p>\n<p>\nDuring a recent appearance on NBC&#8217;s The Today Show, Jennifer told host Savannah Guthrie, 54, that they are &#8220;not dating&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>\nTed Lasso&#8217;s Brett added: &#8220;Correct.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><!-- Pagination --><\/p>\n<p><!-- playbuzz --><br \/>\n<!-- end playbuzz--><\/p>\n<p><!-- \n\n<div data-cn-project=\"femalefirst\">\n    \n<\/div>\n\n --><\/p>\n<p><!-- Outbrain { date: 2018\/06\/08 } --><br \/>\n<!-- Outbrain { date: 2018\/06\/08 } --><\/p>\n<p>    <!-- Outbrain { date: 2018\/06\/08 } --><br \/>\n    <!-- Outbrain { date: 2018\/06\/08 } --><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p><br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.femalefirst.co.uk\/celebrity\/jennifer-lopez-told-figure-after-ben-affleck-divorce-1446013.html?f=rss\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>16 June 2026 Jennifer Lopez told herself to &#8220;f****** figure yourself out&#8221; after her divorce from Ben Affleck. Former couple Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez The 56-year-old singer realised she needed to work on herself and not blame others after becoming single in April 2024. 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