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A woman worried that she took things too far by setting an ultimatum in her relationship with her husband. However, others are telling her that it might already be time to abandon ship. <\/p>\n
On Reddit<\/strong><\/a>\u2018s \u201cAm I Overreacting\u201d forum, the distressed wife explained that she told her husband he needed to make a choice. If he couldn\u2019t, then she was ready and willing to leave him behind. <\/p>\n Keep reading to find out more\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n In her post<\/a>, the woman wrote that her husband had \u201crecently admitted that he has been driving around at night with a female coworker.\u201d They\u2019d reportedly spent about six hours together in the car having \u201cdeep conversations.\u201d <\/p>\n \u201cHe says the conversations were mostly about him, their dynamic, moral values, and even about how strange it is that they are connecting on such a deep level while both being in relationships,\u201d she wrote. <\/p>\n The Redditor\u2019s husband admitted to having \u201cfeelings\u201d for his coworker, which he said he didn\u2019t \u201cfully understand.\u201d <\/p>\n \u201cHe also said he has never talked to anyone like this before except me. According to him, she gives him new perspectives that I don\u2019t, because she is more confident and stands up for herself more,\u201d she wrote, adding that he felt \u201cguilty\u201d but \u201cdoesn\u2019t want to lose these conversations.\u201d <\/p>\n Her husband had a proposal: \u201cHe agreed to stop driving around with her at night, but wants to stay in contact with her.\u201d<\/p>\n She had a different one, asking, \u201cSo\u2026 am I overreacting for saying: it\u2019s her or me?\u201d<\/p>\n Fellow Redditors rushed to reply, telling her that she was making the right call. <\/p>\n \u201cHe told you he has feelings for her and will not cut off contact. He\u2019s already made that decision for you. Don\u2019t be the safe back up plan,\u201d one person wrote. <\/p>\n Another person said that the woman was actually \u201cunder-reacting,\u201d adding, \u201cI would consider this cheating. Just because something physical hasn\u2019t happened doesn\u2019t mean anything here.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cIf you are giving him an ultimatum to choose between you (his wife) and coworker (his girlfriend), and he\u2019s not immediately choosing his spouse, you have your answer. This will be the first of many times he does this,\u201d someone else wrote.<\/p>\n Sharing their own personal experience, another person wrote that they stayed in a similar situation. \u201cWhen my ex finally did leave me, it was so traumatic I ended up in the psych ward,\u201d they wrote. <\/p>\n Their advice: \u201cThe relationship is already over, the only thing OP can choose is how much dignity she can walk away with.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n