{"id":219213,"date":"2026-01-27T22:01:12","date_gmt":"2026-01-27T22:01:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/entertainment.runfyers.com\/index.php\/2026\/01\/27\/bob-geldofs-grief-was-worse-when-paula-yates-marriage-ended-than-when-she-died\/"},"modified":"2026-01-27T22:01:12","modified_gmt":"2026-01-27T22:01:12","slug":"bob-geldofs-grief-was-worse-when-paula-yates-marriage-ended-than-when-she-died","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/entertainment.runfyers.com\/index.php\/2026\/01\/27\/bob-geldofs-grief-was-worse-when-paula-yates-marriage-ended-than-when-she-died\/","title":{"rendered":"Bob Geldof&#8217;s grief was &#8216;worse&#8217; when Paula Yates marriage ended than when she died"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p class=\"byline\">\n<p>        <time itemprop=\"datePublished\" content=\"2026-01-27\" datetime=\"1769551272\" pubdate=\"\">27 January 2026<\/time>\n    <\/p>\n<p>Bob Geldof&#8217;s grief when <a href=\"https:\/\/www.femalefirst.co.uk\/paula-yates\/\" class=\"exposure-link \" data-linktrack=\"LinkTracker,articleExposure,paula-yates\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Paula Yates<\/a> left him was &#8220;worse&#8221; than when she died.<\/p>\n<p>                            <\/p>\n<p class=\"image-caption landscape\">Bob Geldof was devastated when Paula Yates left him<\/p>\n<p>The Boomtown Rats frontman&#8217;s marriage to the presenter &#8211; who he wed in 1986 after a decade together- ended in 1995 when she left him for INXS frontman <a href=\"https:\/\/www.femalefirst.co.uk\/michael-hutchence\/\" class=\"exposure-link \" data-linktrack=\"LinkTracker,articleExposure,michael-hutchence\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Michael Hutchence<\/a> and he has recalled how he &#8220;didn&#8217;t want to wake up again&#8221; in the months afterwards, but ultimately kept going for their children.<\/p>\n<p>Reflecting on Paula&#8217;s death from an overdose in 2000, he told RTE1: &#8220;It was not as bad &#8211; people are probably going to go nuts on me now and I hope, I wish they won&#8217;t &#8211; it was not the feeling of loss. The grief, the agony, was not as bad as when Paula left me. That was worse.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;That required something else in me and, honest to god, I just didn&#8217;t want to wake up again. You deal with these chasms of grief, these universes of loss, these abysses of pain and not understanding anything.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;If you make the decision &#8211; I&#8217;m going to live because I have children and I&#8217;m going to make sure they&#8217;re okay &#8211; the soul has no proposition except to bind itself together to somehow push itself back. This obliterated thing. And the only way to do that is somehow through love.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>\nBob &#8211; who had Fifi, 32, the late Peaches, and Pixie, 35, with Paula, and also adopted her and Michael&#8217;s daughter Tiger, 29, following their deaths &#8211; went on to find love again with Jeanne Marine, but he admitted in the immediate aftermath of his first marriage ending, he &#8220;hated every woman&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>\nHe said: &#8220;I didn&#8217;t want to see another woman in my life. I hated every woman. And whether I liked it or not, it took a while, but my soul demanded love.<\/p>\n<p>\n&#8220;It came to me, and I was unwilling, and I resisted &#8211; never again, never again &#8211; because I will not survive again. I resisted, I resisted. But you have no choice.<\/p>\n<p>\n&#8220;You allow it in, and once it weasels its way in, you begin to be less hateful as a person. You begin to bind again, and you become human again.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>\nMeanwhile, Bob admitted he fears he &#8220;failed&#8221; when it came to breaking the news of Paula&#8217;s death to her daughters.<\/p>\n<p>\nHe recalled: &#8220;I put down the phone as if it was just a phone call and Fifi said, &#8216;What? Don&#8217;t tell me, mum something-something.&#8217; And I said &#8216;no, no&#8217;&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>\n&#8220;I remembered the directness of my father [when my mother died], and that&#8217;s precisely what a child needs &#8211; tell me exactly, no obfuscations.<\/p>\n<p>\n&#8220;I just went up and I did what my father did. And they reacted differently.<\/p>\n<p>\n&#8220;I think I failed, actually. I think I didn&#8217;t do it right. That&#8217;s bugged me subsequently.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>\nBut the I Don&#8217;t Like Mondays hitmaker is glad he took Paula&#8217;s daughters to see her body, especially as he wasn&#8217;t allowed at his own mother&#8217;s funeral when she died when he was eight.<\/p>\n<p>\nHe said: &#8220;I brought them to see her body, which is the thing you do now. And they saw it as an inert thing. Mum wasn&#8217;t there. And it&#8217;s like the wakes in Ireland, the person just simply has gone.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>\n&#8220;I think that the psychiatrists or psychologists were right&#8230; it was the right thing to do.<\/p>\n<p>\n&#8220;They got to understand, especially Tiger &#8211; she got to understand her mum had gone, and understood the logic of life and death.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><!-- Pagination --><\/p>\n<p><!-- playbuzz --><br \/>\n<!-- end playbuzz--><\/p>\n<p><!-- \n\n<div data-cn-project=\"femalefirst\">\n    \n<\/div>\n\n --><\/p>\n<p><!-- Outbrain { date: 2018\/06\/08 } --><br \/>\n<!-- Outbrain { date: 2018\/06\/08 } --><\/p>\n<p>    <!-- Outbrain { date: 2018\/06\/08 } --><br \/>\n    <!-- Outbrain { date: 2018\/06\/08 } --><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p><br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.femalefirst.co.uk\/celebrity\/bob-geldofs-grief-worse-paula-yates-marriage-ended-died-1436728.html?f=rss\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>27 January 2026 Bob Geldof&#8217;s grief when Paula Yates left him was &#8220;worse&#8221; than when she died. Bob Geldof was devastated when Paula Yates left him The Boomtown Rats frontman&#8217;s marriage to the presenter &#8211; who he wed in 1986 after a decade together- ended in 1995 when she left him for INXS frontman Michael [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":219214,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[715,4860,12448],"class_list":{"0":"post-219213","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-make-up","8":"tag-bob-geldof","9":"tag-michael-hutchence","10":"tag-paula-yates"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/entertainment.runfyers.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/219213","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/entertainment.runfyers.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/entertainment.runfyers.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/entertainment.runfyers.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/entertainment.runfyers.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=219213"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/entertainment.runfyers.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/219213\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/entertainment.runfyers.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/219214"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/entertainment.runfyers.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=219213"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/entertainment.runfyers.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=219213"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/entertainment.runfyers.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=219213"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}