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\n Related: <\/span>Nicole Kidman, Keith Urban Were ‘Working Through Stuff’ Before Split\u00a0<\/span><\/a>
\n\t\t<\/h3>\n<\/p><\/div>\n\n\t\t\tNicole Kidman and Keith Urban were \u201cworking\u201d on their marriage years before splitting up, according to the Oscar-winning actress. Kidman, 58, opened up about their partnership in an interview for the September 2021 issue of Harper\u2019s Bazaar, telling the magazine, \u201cWe\u2019re always working through stuff, but it\u2019s very much love-based, so there\u2019s an enormous amount [\u2026]\t\t<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
They have continued to be each other\u2019s biggest supporters throughout the years \u2014 even praising each other during award speeches.<\/p>\n
\u201cWe got married in June 2006 and barely four months into our marriage, my addictions \u2026 that I\u2019d done really nothing about, blew our marriage to smithereens,<\/a>\u201d Urban said onstage at the 49th AFI Life Achievement Award Gala in April 2024. \u201cFour months into a marriage, I\u2019m in rehab for three months. I had no idea what was going to happen to us \u2026 and if you want to see what love in action really looks like, give that a whirl.\u201d<\/p>\nUrban revealed that Kidman helped him push \u201cthrough every negative voice\u201d and always \u201cchose love.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd here we are tonight, 18 years later,\u201d he gushed.<\/p>\n
In September 2025, Us Weekly<\/em> confirmed that the duo had separated after 19 years of marriage<\/a>. Kidman filed for divorce one day later<\/a> on September 30, citing \u201cirreconcilable differences\u201d for the reason for their breakup.<\/p>\nKeep scrolling to see more of what Kidman and Urban have said about their relationship throughout the years:<\/p>\n
Their \u2018Incredibly Raw\u2019 and \u2018Incredibly Dangerous\u2019 Romance<\/h2>\n\n![\"Nicole](\"https:\/\/www.usmagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/GettyImages-92994409-Nicole-Kidman-and-Keith-Urbans-Quotes-About-Their-Romance-Before-Split.jpg?w=1000&quality=86&strip=all\")
<\/div>Taylor Hill\/WireImage<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\nIn November 2009, Kidman noted that she had \u201cexplored the mundane aspect of marriage and monogamy\u201d in her previous marriage to Tom Cruise<\/strong>, however, with Urban, things were different.<\/p>\n\u201c[It\u2019s] incredibly raw, incredibly dangerous<\/a> \u2026 you\u2019re very much out at sea. You\u2019re exposed. You could drown,\u201d she told British GQ<\/em> at the time.<\/p>\nKidman\u2019s Intervention for Urban Helped Strengthen Their Bond<\/h2>\n
At the beginning of their marriage, Kidman staged an intervention for Urban, who was hooked on cocaine and other substances.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt was a really profound moment<\/a> in so many ways,\u201d Urban said in a 2010 interview. \u201cThe way in which Nic handled that moment was just perfect \u2026 Everything was just designed, I believe, for that moment to fuse us together.\u201d<\/p>\nUrban added that he believed that Kidman taught him \u201cso much\u201d and \u201cbrought so much into [his] life and opened [his] eyes in so many ways.\u201d<\/p>\n
They Weren\u2019t Afraid to Call Each Other Out for Things<\/h2>\n\n![\"Nicole](\"https:\/\/www.usmagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/GettyImages-145233524-Nicole-Kidman-and-Keith-Urbans-Quotes-About-Their-Romance-Before-Split.jpg?w=1000&quality=86&strip=all\")
<\/div>Marc Piasecki\/Getty Images<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\nIn the August 2012 GQ Australia<\/em> issue, Urban said that Kidman always called him out whenever he was moping<\/a>.<\/p>\n\u201cNegativity and doubt are always creeping into my life and having to be kept at bay. Thankfully, Nic is great at calling me on it, and our marriage is at the stage where she doesn\u2019t have to say anything,\u201d he said. \u201cI hear myself prattling on with negative crap and her loaded silence shuts me up.\u201d<\/p>\n
They Wrote Letters to Each Other<\/h2>\n
During an interview on The Ellen DeGeneres Show<\/em> in October 2014, Kidman said that she and Urban used to write letters to each other<\/a> when they were away from each other.<\/p>\n\u201cI write him things too! He doesn\u2019t write them every single day. When we\u2019re apart, we do that, yeah,\u201d she said. \u201cI have to say, I love saying this because he should be just adored.\u201d<\/p>\n
He Helped Her Prepare for Her \u2018Big Little Lies\u2019 Role<\/h2>\n\n![\"Nicole](\"https:\/\/www.usmagazine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/GettyImages-1152533644-Nicole-Kidman-and-Keith-Urbans-Quotes-About-Their-Romance-Before-Split.jpg?w=1000&quality=86&strip=all\")
<\/div>Monica Schipper\/FilmMagic<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\nWhile preparing for the intensity of her Big Little Lies<\/em> role, Kidman relied on Urban as support.<\/p>\n\u201cI have the most extraordinary partner in life<\/a>. I will always say that about him,\u201d she told Entertainment Tonight<\/em> in May 2019. \u201cI\u2019m one of the very fortunate women in the world to have had a wonderful father, and I have a wonderful husband, and I\u2019m just very \u2014 I love to be able to say that because to talk about the good men that have influenced me and affected me.\u201d<\/p>\nHe Was Her \u2018Solace\u2019<\/h2>\n
In the \u201cunstable\u201d entertainment industry, Kidman shared that Urban helped ground her<\/a>.<\/p>\n\u201cI\u2019m so lucky that I found it. It\u2019s such an unstable industry and he\u2019s my solace,\u201d she told Vogue Australia<\/em><\/a> in August 2024. \u201cEvery day we get up in the morning and we go for a walk \u2014 and we hold hands. We love holding hands!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\n
Urban revealed that Kidman helped him push \u201cthrough every negative voice\u201d and always \u201cchose love.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd here we are tonight, 18 years later,\u201d he gushed.<\/p>\n
In September 2025, Us Weekly<\/em> confirmed that the duo had separated after 19 years of marriage<\/a>. Kidman filed for divorce one day later<\/a> on September 30, citing \u201cirreconcilable differences\u201d for the reason for their breakup.<\/p>\n Keep scrolling to see more of what Kidman and Urban have said about their relationship throughout the years:<\/p>\n In November 2009, Kidman noted that she had \u201cexplored the mundane aspect of marriage and monogamy\u201d in her previous marriage to Tom Cruise<\/strong>, however, with Urban, things were different.<\/p>\n \u201c[It\u2019s] incredibly raw, incredibly dangerous<\/a> \u2026 you\u2019re very much out at sea. You\u2019re exposed. You could drown,\u201d she told British GQ<\/em> at the time.<\/p>\n At the beginning of their marriage, Kidman staged an intervention for Urban, who was hooked on cocaine and other substances.<\/p>\n \u201cIt was a really profound moment<\/a> in so many ways,\u201d Urban said in a 2010 interview. \u201cThe way in which Nic handled that moment was just perfect \u2026 Everything was just designed, I believe, for that moment to fuse us together.\u201d<\/p>\n Urban added that he believed that Kidman taught him \u201cso much\u201d and \u201cbrought so much into [his] life and opened [his] eyes in so many ways.\u201d<\/p>\n In the August 2012 GQ Australia<\/em> issue, Urban said that Kidman always called him out whenever he was moping<\/a>.<\/p>\n \u201cNegativity and doubt are always creeping into my life and having to be kept at bay. Thankfully, Nic is great at calling me on it, and our marriage is at the stage where she doesn\u2019t have to say anything,\u201d he said. \u201cI hear myself prattling on with negative crap and her loaded silence shuts me up.\u201d<\/p>\n During an interview on The Ellen DeGeneres Show<\/em> in October 2014, Kidman said that she and Urban used to write letters to each other<\/a> when they were away from each other.<\/p>\n \u201cI write him things too! He doesn\u2019t write them every single day. When we\u2019re apart, we do that, yeah,\u201d she said. \u201cI have to say, I love saying this because he should be just adored.\u201d<\/p>\n While preparing for the intensity of her Big Little Lies<\/em> role, Kidman relied on Urban as support.<\/p>\n \u201cI have the most extraordinary partner in life<\/a>. I will always say that about him,\u201d she told Entertainment Tonight<\/em> in May 2019. \u201cI\u2019m one of the very fortunate women in the world to have had a wonderful father, and I have a wonderful husband, and I\u2019m just very \u2014 I love to be able to say that because to talk about the good men that have influenced me and affected me.\u201d<\/p>\n In the \u201cunstable\u201d entertainment industry, Kidman shared that Urban helped ground her<\/a>.<\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019m so lucky that I found it. It\u2019s such an unstable industry and he\u2019s my solace,\u201d she told Vogue Australia<\/em><\/a> in August 2024. \u201cEvery day we get up in the morning and we go for a walk \u2014 and we hold hands. We love holding hands!\u201d<\/p>\nTheir \u2018Incredibly Raw\u2019 and \u2018Incredibly Dangerous\u2019 Romance<\/h2>\n
<\/div>Kidman\u2019s Intervention for Urban Helped Strengthen Their Bond<\/h2>\n
They Weren\u2019t Afraid to Call Each Other Out for Things<\/h2>\n
<\/div>They Wrote Letters to Each Other<\/h2>\n
He Helped Her Prepare for Her \u2018Big Little Lies\u2019 Role<\/h2>\n
<\/div>He Was Her \u2018Solace\u2019<\/h2>\n
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