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Loaded advice? Raquel Leviss<\/strong><\/a> weighed in on Ariana Madix<\/strong><\/a> and Tom Sandoval<\/strong><\/a>\u2019s sex life \u2014 and boosted Ariana\u2019s self-esteem \u2014 amid her secret affair with the TomTom cofounder<\/a>.<\/p>\n \u201cIt just sometimes feels lately, like, we haven\u2019t been as connected,\u201d Tom, 40, confessed to Ariana, 37, during the Wednesday, May 10, episode of Vanderpump Rules<\/em><\/a> amid their relationship ups and downs. \u201cYou snap at me and you f\u2014king belittle me in front of people. That really f\u2014king hurts my feelings.\u201d<\/p>\n While the Florida native \u201cagreed\u201d with her then-boyfriend<\/a> about \u201cnot being connected\u201d she wasn\u2019t convinced that more sex would help their dynamic.<\/p>\n \u201cI just want to f\u2014king be better. I want to us to be more intimate,\u201d Tom explained while having a small breakdown at their shared home. \u201cHaving sex, like, four times a year, that also affects me.\u201d<\/p>\n Ariana quipped: \u201cOK, well then maybe you need to spend time with me because I cannot have sex with somebody who feels like a stranger.\u201d<\/p>\n Elsewhere in the episode, the Buying Back My Daughter<\/em> actress opened up to Raquel<\/a>, 28, about her insecurities and how they had started to affect her sex life with the Schwartz & Sandy\u2019s cofounder.<\/p>\n \u201cI feel like in a relationship you should want to have sex,\u201d Raquel told Ariana during the Something About Her party at SUR. The Fancy AF Cocktails<\/em> coauthor<\/a> agreed, but pointed out, \u201cYou have to be emotionally intimate to be physically intimate.\u201d<\/p>\n When asked whether she was still \u201csexually attracted\u201d to Tom, Ariana quickly replied, \u201cOh my God, I think he\u2019s so f\u2014king hot.\u201d<\/p>\n She then confessed that she doesn\u2019t feel sexy. \u201cI\u2019m like, \u2018I\u2019m not hot,\u2019\u201d Ariana said of her physique. \u201cYou don\u2019t look at my body and go, \u2018Yeah, that\u2019s what I want. I want cellulite, fat thighs and a big ass.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n Raquel cut her off, saying, \u201cStop! I feel like a lot of that is in your head.\u201d The former pageant queen<\/a> admitted that she does the same thing to herself, which she noted was \u201cf\u2014ked up\u201d and not accurate.<\/p>\n \u201cI think we\u2019re a lot prettier than we think we are. We\u2019re our own worst critics and that translates into our sexual lives,\u201d Raquel explained. \u201cNow that I\u2019m single, I think that sex is a very, very important part of a healthy relationship<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n Ariana concluded by telling Raquel that she wanted to fix her and Tom\u2019s relationship. \u201cI wouldn\u2019t be having this conversation if this wasn\u2019t who I wanted to be with,\u201d she said, adding, \u201cI think we\u2019ll talk it out and be fine.\u201d<\/p>\n Tom and Ariana\u2019s relationship woes, however, became an even bigger topic of conversation off camera in March when Us Weekly<\/em> confirmed that they called it quits<\/a> after nine years. The news came amid the Tom Sandoval and The Most Extras singer\u2019s months-long affair with Raquel. (Pump Rules<\/em>\u2019 Tom Schwartz<\/strong><\/a> revealed during an April appearance on Watch What Happens Live With Andy Cohen<\/em><\/a> that he \u201clearned about the affair in August.\u201d He claimed that Sandoval had a \u201cone night stand\u201d with the California native before embarking on a \u201cemotional affair.\u201d)<\/p>\n Both Sandoval and Raquel publicly apologized to Ariana later that month<\/a>\u00a0for the cheating scandal. In the wake of the drama, the Pump Rules<\/em> cast resumed filming scenes for season 10 as the fallout from the relationship played out in real time.<\/p>\n Viewers will get an even better look at where the reality stars stand with their costars during the explosive season 10 finale and subsequent reunion, which are both set to air later this month on Bravo. In the meantime, Ariana has been linked to fitness instructor Daniel Wai<\/strong><\/a>, whom she was spotted kissing at Coachella last month.<\/p>\n Raquel, for her part, checked into a mental health rehabilitation center<\/a> in April following the affair backlash. Sandoval, meanwhile, announced during his May 4 concert in New York<\/a> that \u201cit\u2019s been one month since I had my last drink of alcohol.\u201d<\/p>\n