Interview<\/em><\/a> magazine, J.Lo hinted at her ongoing divorce from Affleck. The couple tied the knot in July 2022, almost two decades after they called off their first engagement in 2004. Lopez filed for divorce on August 20, 2024, stating April 26, 2024 as their separation date.<\/p>\n\u201cWith This Is Me\u2026Now<\/em> and the project that you mentioned earlier, I felt like, whoa, I got here. I’m good,\u201d Lopez shared, talking about her ninth album and its companion movie musical from 2023. \u201cI did all the work and look at where I am, and then it was like my whole fucking world exploded.\u201d<\/p>\nShe told Glaser that growing as a person is \u201ca lifelong process.\u201d<\/p>\nBen Affleck and Jennifer Lopez are seen going out to lunch together with their children amid divorce news on Sep. 14, 2024 in Beverly Hills, CA. Photo Credit: BauerGriffin\/INSTARimages<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\u201cThere’s times when I thought I figured it out, and then life goes, \u2018Let’s send you another thing and see if you fall for it. Let’s see if you really have learned that lesson.’ And I hadn’t,\u201d Lopez admitted. \u201cI understand that now in a much deeper way, which doesn’t mean that I won’t make mistakes in the future, but again, when your whole house blows up, you’re standing there in the rubble going, \u2018How do I not ever let that happen again?’ And then you start examining it little by little saying, \u2018Okay, I did this, this was my part in it, this was what I should have seen early on, this is what I didn’t look at.’ Those things are what really are the lessons.\u201d<\/p>\n
She went on, \u201cWhen you get to a point where you think that you’ve learned the lessons, and then it blows up in your face again, you realize, \u2018Okay, I haven’t, so what is it that I need to look at right now?’ I would say, never stop looking inward, because it’s so easy to blame everybody else.\u201d<\/p>\nJennifer Lopez (JLo) wearing a Zuhair Murad Couture gown with Joseph Saidian and Sons vintage Van Cleef and Arpels diamond earrings and A.Jaffe diamond rings arrives at the Los Angeles Premiere Of Amazon MGM Studios’ \u2018This Is Me\u2026Now: A Love Story’ held at the Dolby Theatre on February 13, 2024 in Hollywood, Los Angeles, California, United States. (Photo by Xavier Collin\/Image Press Agency)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\nReferring to her summer, which she mostly spent apart from Affleck, Lopez shared, \u201cYou have to be complete, if you want something that’s more complete. You have to be good on your own. I thought I learned that, but I didn’t. And then, this summer, I had to be like, \u2018I need to go off and be on my own. I want to prove to myself that I can do that.’ \u201c<\/p>\n
Lopez’s honest words show she’s not afraid to face her struggles head-on, giving fans a glimpse into her journey of self-discovery and growth.<\/p>\n
Lopez reflected on her journey as a newly single woman, sharing how her perspective has shifted. \u201cIt feels lonely, unfamiliar, scary. It feels sad. It feels desperate. But when you sit in those feelings and go, \u2018These things are not going to kill me,’ it’s like actually, I am capable of joy and happiness all by myself,\u201d she told Glaser. \u201cBeing in a relationship doesn’t define me. I can’t be looking for happiness in other people. I have to have happiness within myself. I used to say I’m a happy person, but was still looking for something for somebody else to fill, and it’s just like, \u2018No, I’m actually good.’\u201d<\/p>\nAmerican actor and filmmaker Ben Affleck and wife\/American actress, singer and dancer Jennifer Lopez (J.Lo, Jennifer Lynn Lopez-Affleck) wearing a custom Brunello Cucinelli look, a Tyler Ellis bag, and Fernando Jorge jewelry arrive at the Los Angeles Premiere Of Netflix’s \u2018The Mother’ held at the Regency Village Theater on May 10, 2023 in Westwood, Los Angeles, California, United States. (Photo by Xavier Collin\/Image Press Agency)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\nShe continued, \u201cSomebody who truly loves you will help you heal those parts of yourself. That’s what I’ve learned about love, that it is a secure thing. You make me feel safe, and when I fall short of the glory, you understand me and you help me to grow to be better, because you have your boundaries and I have my boundaries. And I go, \u2018Here’s where you’re falling short for me and here’s where I’m falling short for you.’ And so, we get better at those things together.\u201d<\/p>\n
When asked about raising her standards for future relationships, Lopez surprised Glaser by saying, \u201cThere’s no new bar because I’m not looking for anybody. How’s that?\u201d She added, \u201cFor people who are romantics and love being in relationships and want to grow old with somebody, we think, \u2018I have to have that to be whole and happy.’ And you don’t.\u201d<\/p>\nPhoto by Matt Agudo\/INSTARimages<\/figcaption><\/figure>\nDespite the challenges, Lopez holds no grudges about her experience with Affleck. She shared, \u201cThat doesn’t mean it didn’t almost take me out for good. It almost did. But now, on the other side of it, I think to myself, \u2018Fuck, that is exactly what I needed. Thank you, god. I’m sorry it took me so long. I’m sorry that you had to do this to me so many times. I should have learned it two or three times ago. I get it. You had to hit me really hard over the head with a fucking sledgehammer. You dropped the house on me. Don’t have to do it again,’\u201d she explained. \u201cI finally got it! And by the way, that doesn’t mean I have everything figured out. Now I’m excited, when you say you’re just going to be on your own. Yes, I’m not looking for anybody, because everything that I’ve done over the past 25, 30 years, being in these different challenging situations, what can I fucking do when it’s just me flying on my own.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lopez’s candid words show her growth and self-awareness. She’s embracing her independence and finding strength in being alone, proving that happiness comes from within, not from others.<\/p>\n
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