A bride is unsure how to proceed with her mom after some messy interactions in the leadup to her wedding.
Taking to Reddit‘s popular “Am I the A–hole” forum, the 32-year-old woman revealed that she and her husband exchanged vows in “a small wedding” the year prior.
In the leadup to the big day, the bride made multiple efforts to include her mom. However, she said that it went so badly that she eventually gave up. Things were tense, and they only got worse.
Now, the Redditor wrote that her mom’s “been crying to relatives & her friends about how disappointed she is that she wasn’t included.” However, she doesn’t see things the same way and refuses to apologize. Her description led some to speculate that one party is a “textbook narcissist” with “main character syndrome.”
Here’s what happened as they were planning the big day
In her post, the bride explained that her mom “hates social events and weddings specifically.” She explained that she “thinks they’re a ‘waste of money’ and an ‘inconvenience to guests.’ ”
As a result, the mom, who wasn’t paying, wanted her daughter “to elope or have a micro-wedding.”
“After telling her ‘no’ a dozen times, I finally snapped and told her to drop it. After that, she completely shut down and lost interest. I still tried to involve her by inviting her to the florist, dress alterations, offering to go shopping for her MOB outfit but she was always ‘too busy’ or just uninterested,” she recalled.
The bride added, “I even asked her to get ready with me in the bridal suite, but she refused saying she’d rather get ready at home because she ‘didn’t want to socialize.’ She even skipped the rehearsal dinner because she ‘didn’t feel wanted.’ ”
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After refusing to get ready with her daughter, the mom came to the bridal suite already dressed with her uncle in tow. The bride told her mom that her uncle was not allowed inside, which left her “incredibly offended.”
It only got worse after that.
“Then, immediately after the ceremony, she tried to leave. She actually told my MOH to tell me goodbye because she was just… leaving? It took multiple people convincing her to stay just to take photos and say a proper goodbye. It was a huge, disappointing scene. She missed the reception entirely and of course, this was incredibly noticeable to all of our guests,” the bride recalled.
Over a year after the wedding, the bride said that her mom is “refusing to have a real conversation with me until I apologize for not taking her feelings into consideration.”
“I feel like I spent months begging her to be involved only for her to blow me off, but now she’s acting like it was my fault that she wasn’t involved,” the bride wrote. She noted that she didn’t feel as though she needed to apologize.
The bride was assured that she wasn’t in the wrong
She sought out assurance from fellow Redditors and certainly found it.
“Wow she sounds exhausting. I think she got social feedback that her behavior was messed up and now she wants to rewrite history to make it your fault,” one person wrote. They urged the bride to “tell relatives the real story if you want.”
Others agreed, describing the mom as “a textbook narcissist” and saying that she suffered from “main character syndrome.”
“You didn’t push her anywhere, she stepped out of the planning, the socializing, the festivities…all of it. You tried to include her. Kept inviting her. Not much else you can do without literally forcing her,” one person wrote.
Another agreed, adding, “Whether consciously or not, your mom is getting something out of creating these situations and playing the victim. I don’t know if she’d be receptive, but therapy may help her work that out. Regardless, it’s not something you’re responsible for.”
One Redditor provided a sarcastic recommendation for how to proceed, joking that the bride should write her mom the following message: “I’m sorry you felt left out after you tried to discourage me from having a wedding. I’m sorry you felt left out after I invited you to come with me to the florist/dress shopping/alterations. I’m sorry you felt left out after I invited you to get ready with me without my uncle in tow. I’m sorry you felt so left out at my rehearsal dinner that you uninvited yourself.”
The proposed letter continued. “I’m sorry you felt so left out that you didn’t even want a picture with your daughter on her wedding day. I’m sorry that no matter what I did to try to include you and make you feel special, you felt left out, on a day that was about my husband and I celebrating our love and joining our families.”
“For the record,” they added, “I’m not saying you should apologize to your mother, when she was a big party pooper. Weddings really do have a fun way of bringing out the worst in people.”
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