A woman was fully prepared to move in with her longtime boyfriend. However, she changed her plans after he made a shocking comment to her.
Now others are literally “begging” her to leave him in the dust.
Taking to Reddit‘s “Am I Overreacting” forum, the 29-year-old woman wrote that she had been dating her boyfriend, 37, since June. They were going to move in together later this month.
Then, he made a nasty comment that made her “feel sad, confused, and honestly scared about taking the next step of moving in together.”
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“Recently he told me that he’s noticed I’ve gained weight since we started dating (around 20 lbs) and that it bothers him,” she wrote in her post. “He said if I keep gaining weight it could be the downfall of our relationship.”
The Redditor said that she still leads a “very active” lifestyle, walking and attending hot yoga classes “regularly.”
“When he first said this, I told him the way he framed it made me feel like my body determines whether I’m loved, and that felt like conditional love to me,” she shared.
Continuing, she wrote, “I also said relationships go through life changes and asked what would happen if I got sick or injured someday. He said that’s different because those things wouldn’t be in my control, but if my weight is something I can control then I should take responsibility for it.”
Since she was feeling hurt, she decided to “slow things down” and renewed her lease to spent more time on her own.
“During that conversation he told me directly that he’s ‘not happy with my body’ and that it’s my responsibility to fix it,” she shared. “That comment honestly made something in me shut down. It made me feel evaluated and judged rather than supported, especially since I thought we were moving toward a serious future together.”
She wanted to know if her decision was an overreaction. Everyone rushed to assure her that she should take it even further.
“Can always quickly lose 200lbs of stupid by breaking up with him,” one person replied to her, with another agreeing and writing, “This is the answer. Drop the dead weight.”
Another Redditor got a lot of love for their response: “I am begging women to find the self respect they need to dump losers like this. Do not spend your life with someone who treats you like this.”
Taking a more even-keeled approach, yet another person agreed with the woman and said, “It’s good you found out before you took the next steps that this is how he feels.”
